If you are unwilling to fail . . .
Success will never be a reality!
Tim Connor
Everyone wants success
regardless of how they define it. If this is true why do so many people search
for it, try and achieve it, desire it and even dream about it yet never come
close to achieving it? Let’s get a few things straight before we dig deeper
into this topic.
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Success means
different things to everyone.
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Success isn’t
easy.
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Success comes and
goes.
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Success involves
risk
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Success demands a
willingness to fail
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Success takes
time.
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Success takes
work.
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Success requires
patience.
Yes, there are several more
elements, but over the years I have discovered that most people, who say they
want success, fail to accept one or all of the above principles. Why is this?
There are as many
reasons/excuses as there are people who say they want success. But, it’s my belief that the major reason is
simply that people don’t really know how to define success as it pertains to
their life and what it will require.
You can be a parent, teacher,
CEO, business owner, athlete etc – it doesn’t matter your station in life or
your career or position – success requires effort, focus, commitment, staying
power, self-belief, passion and a clear definition of what it means to you.
Think about it for a minute –
if Edison feared failure would he have
discovered the potential of electricity?
If Gates feared failure would he have built Microsoft? If Ford feared failure would he have created
the automobile? If the Wright Brothers
feared failure would they have discovered flight? I could go on but I’m sure you get my point –
everything that exists today
exists because someone was willing to fail and try again and again and yes,
again.
It’s unfortunate, however
that most people are so afraid of failure that they never accomplish what they
want or realize their dreams. They fear
the opinions of others. They fear the
negative consequences. They fear the
uncertainty. And they fear the unknowns,
especially the potential negative ones that await them in the future.
I am not proud to admit that
I have failed at more in life than I have succeeded but in the end to me it’s
not about the outcome – whether I fail or succeed but the journey, the life
lessons and the feelings of contentment that I have walked my own path into the
future no matter how others felt, advised, criticized or cheered me on.
Life offers no
guarantees. Life is uncertain. Life never turns out how we expect or even
want it to. It is full of surprises both
positive and negative, mistakes that often in the long term turn out to be good
for us or barriers we must overcome no matter how painful or enduring.
I won’t bore you with the
tremendous number of failures, setbacks and mistakes I have made over the years
– all I can say is they have only strengthened my resolve, purpose and
willingness to keep on trying no matter how bad things were.
I have survived four
recessions since beginning my speaking and writing career. I have; files filled with rejection letters
from publishers, goals not achieved and a bucket list that has more left to do
than I have done but in the end for me, whenever that is, I can leave here with
one simple certainty – I never let the fear of failure control me. I never gave in to its attempts to derail me
no matter how hard or bad things were.
You might say I’m nuts with
this life outlook and you could be right but please keep in mind – this is my
life and your life is your life. Who or
what, when you look back after all those years, do you want to say to yourself controlled
you - your parents, your spouse, your
children, the economy, the government or friends or family? For me when I look in the mirror I want to
smile and say – regardless of how things turned out my destiny was up to me and
my God and no one or nothing else.
What will be your final
thoughts as you leave here? Did you live
your life dream or someone else’s? Did
you do all you could to make your life an adventure or did you let self-imposed
limitations or those of others control you?
Did you let the fear of failure keep you stuck in mediocrity, wondering
or denial?
Don’t die wondering. We are here for a short time and then we are
gone forever - refuse to see failure as the enemy but as a friend with your
long-term best interests at heart.
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