If you had three life wishes
Tim Connor
I’m not your
personal Genie but let me ask you – if you had three life wishes what would
they be and one of them can’t be you want more wishes?
Better
health? Better relationships? More money? Better career? Happiness? Inner
peace? Power, fame or control over your life?
These could go on for pages but the question remains – what would your
three wishes be or better still – why haven’t they become a reality in your
life and are still desires, needs or wants?
So, let’s
see what is missing in your life and why?
I won’t deal with every issue or desire but just four of them; control, success,
relationships and money.
You wish you had more control – There are very few things in life
we can control – the behavior of others, the weather, the economy, politicians
– shall I go on? If this is true why do so many people stress out when things
don’t go the way they planned, want or expect?
Many reasons – fear, ego, arrogance, insecurity or the simple belief
that life is in many ways within their domain to control. I have news for those of you who are minor or
major “control freaks” get over it – you will never have control of most of
what happens during your life.
Yes, you can
control where you choose to go to college, who you date or marry, what career
you select, where you choose to live, what you eat and how you make
decisions. So Tim it sounds like I have
control over more than you suggest.
Well, yes, no and it depends.
Can you
control your professor’s behavior, expectations or how they teach? Can you control the actions of your spouse or
significant other? Can you control how your
boss or organization makes policies that impact you? Can you control the
actions of your next door neighbor? Can you control your body’s reaction to
what you eat or drink? Getting the drift
here?
Yes you can
control all of the decisions and actions you choose to take but that’s it folks
from then on most of what happens is in the hands of God, someone else or just
circumstances in general.
OK so you
decide to move to Arizona so you can have year round sunshine but what about
the extraordinary heat in summer? So you
choose to buy a new car and within a few months you have an issue with its
performance? Again, need I go on?
You wish your
relationships were better – Relationships are dynamic and are constantly changing
based on a variety of factors such as – expectations, emotions, uncertainty and
communication patterns. They are either
getting better or are heading in the wrong direction. If you want a better relationship with anyone
the first place you need to look is in the mirror and what or who you are
bringing to that relationship. You don’t
or can’t change others that is up to them – the why, how and when.
You wish you had more money –If your definition of success is
based on your income, investments, what you own or where you live or your bank
balance you will never be satisfied as no matter how much you have you will
always want more. Good luck with
that. Money does not or never will bring
happiness or inner peace. Yes, it will
permit you to keep buying stuff, travelling and owning but in the end it has
been proven time and time again that these are shallow ingredients that never
satisfy the heart’s desire for inner peace.
You wish you had
greater success –
Success is a process that is constantly impacted by many factors but the most
important one is how you choose to define success. If your definition of success is based on
circumstances you can’t control you will live with constant disappointment and
frustration. If you define success as
what you have sooner or later you will lose it.
If you define success only by achievement how do you behave when you
fail?
Let’s wrap it up.
OK, what are
your three wishes? Are they grounded in
reality or fantasy? Will they ultimately
give you the outcomes you want? Will
they create greater challenges or problems you must deal with? Will they give
you more happiness or inner peace? If you are granted them, will you in
hindsight regret asking for it? Get the
point? There is more to getting what you
want in life than often meets the eye.
So before you make these wishes or travel down these roads, make sure
you can live with the consequences.