Real
life begins at the edge
of
your comfort zone
Tim
Connor
Why is it that some people live with a risk mentality and
others always play it safe? For the
people who play it safe - is it fear of the unknown, the need for control,
impatience, ego needs or some other rationale or mindset? Let’s talk about your
comfort zone and its impact on your future.
What is a comfort zone?
My perspective is that it is only acting, deciding or moving only where
you feel you can control outcomes, consequences or circumstances. In other words – you don’t invest in
financial markets, you don’t try new tasks or hobbies, you don’t take vacations
to new locations, you are afraid to start new relationships etc. You just go with what you know or feel offers
little or no uncertainty and yes emotional comfort. Well let me tell you – the only thing that is
certain in life is its uncertainty – so if this is true and believe me it is –
why do people stay stuck in what they know, feel, believe or think even though
they live with an inner urge to change, try or do something new or different?
Here are a few of the common ones – risk avoidance, low
self-esteem, insecurity, out of control fear, off the chart egos, arrogance,
the need for approval and a pessimistic mindset.
Risk avoidance – life is risk – period. The only way to avoid risk is to die. Everyone defines risk uniquely according to
their comfort zone but what if your comfort zone is grounded in safe or how you
define safe and what if your definition of safe is wrong, outdated or just
plain stupid?
Low self-esteem – when you lack belief in yourself you
will tend to always play it safe avoiding anything that might disrupt your
sense of balance or emotional stability.
Insecurity – insecurity is a lack of self-trust and if this
is one of your guiding principles you will tend to avoid risks of any kind
simply because you think you are not worthy.
Out of control fear – if you fear something, anything you
will always only do what you feel will always turn out positively. If you feel there is any chance of failure,
mistakes, criticism or problems you will settle, avoid and stick your head in
the sand.
Off the chart egos – a large ego wants to always look good
to others, therefore you will have difficulty admitting mistakes, failures or
situations where you might look weak or inadequate. You may take risks but only when you believe
or are confident they will turn out well.
Arrogance – arrogance is a close cousin of pride and pride
can never admit weakness. So if something new potentially puts you in a
position of risk you will blame, point the finger or go into a state of denial.
The need for approval – if you always need the approval of
others sooner or later you will discover that when you constantly live with
this as your guiding principle or mantra you will eventually lose yourself and
become a combination of traits that you feel will never put you in jeopardy of
rejection.
A pessimistic mindset – pessimist’s always see the
negative no matter how positive anything can be. These folks can’t admit to success,
achievement or anything positive so when they take any kind of a risk they need
an escape plan or something or someone to blame.
So, having said all this why live outside your comfort
zone? Well, I could go on for pages but
here are just six reasons – they will give you -
Greater confidence
New friends/relationships
More fun
More positive memories
New adventures
New skills
Let me close with two simple questions – are you living
outside or inside your comfort zone in some area of your life? Why or why not?
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