The past is history regardless of its positives or
negatives. Right now, this moment, this day is all you have or are
guaranteed. Will you live it with
maturity, wisdom and common sense or will you let the mistakes, regrets,
failures or challenges from the past alter or negatively impact what could be the
opportunities that come to you today?
Sooner or later we all do dumb things, things in hindsight
we regret, that’s life as none of us are without flaws or are perfect. If you take risks sooner or later you will
fail at something – a career, relationship, financial situation or any other
life issue – let me repeat – that’s life and the only way to avoid mistakes,
failure or problems in any way is to lock yourself in a log cabin in Vermont
and stare at the birds all day.
I won’t bore you with all of my failures during my life
cause if I did I’ll guarantee you would stop reading and say, “why should I
listen to your council – you are a poor example of how to live life
successfully.”
OK, you’re right but let me add that unless you are
willing to fail and make mistakes you will learn very little about how life
works and how to overcome and eventually win.
Why do people let past mistakes or failure have a negative
influence on today’s actions, decisions, choices or behavior? Well, I’m not a psychologist, but just a
student in life and I believe it’s for one or several of the following reasons.
1) They
live every day with fear as their primary motivator.
2) They
worry too much about the approval of others.
3) They
need to have control of every aspect of life.
4) They
let their ego’s rule their life decisions and actions.
5) They
have low self-esteem or self-confidence.
6) They
believe failure is negative.
7) They
are unwilling to take full responsibility for their actions or choices.
8) They
have a dramatic sense of entitlement.
9) They
are constantly in blame mode.
10)They have a mindset of
risk avoidance.
11)They feel inadequate or
unworthy as an individual.
12)They give up control of
their life to others or circumstances.
13)They stopped learning when
they left high school.
14)They fear rejection.
15)They have a self-righteous
attitude.
Any one of these behaviors or
mindsets will contribute to letting your past have a negative influence on your
todays. Are you willing to honestly
evaluate each of these and face reality and how you might be letting yesterday
impact today due to any of the above reasons?
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