Fear and love can’t
coexist
Tim Connor
What the
world needs is love unfortunately what the world is experiencing now and for
the foreseeable future is more fear.
There are
only two basic emotions love and fear and evidence has proven that when you
live your life from a center of love (not talking here about romantic love)
rather than fear you will live longer, accomplish more and be happier.
If this is
true, why do the majority of people let fear drive their life? Well, it’s
complicated, but let me try and make it less so.
Every
emotion is an offshoot of love or fear so whatever you are experiencing today;
resentment or joy, anger or inner peace, uncertainty or faith, jealousy or
confidence, happiness or anxiety or any other emotions - they are being driven
by your basic emotional state.
Research
over the years has also proven that you can’t come from love when you are
dominated by fear and vice versa. So in a nutshell – love and fear can’t
coexist. Yes, the potential for both
emotions and their relatives are always present and ready to surface at any
time, but in any given situation regardless of its circumstances will cause you
to respond according to your dominant emotional position at the time.
I could go
on for pages about the various consequences of both emotional states, but
suffice it to say that letting the love based emotions determine the quality of
your life will always be better than the fear ones.
When I say
that love and fear cannot coexist - I am basically saying that you’re conscious
decisions and choices are determining which emotions you allow to be the
drivers of your life.
Coexisting
is essentially a sharing and the mind will permit either fear or love to
dominate. The mind doesn’t judge or rule, but simply reacts based on previous
experiences and their impact on your life.
It stores everything, I mean everything that you have ever thought,
felt, believed and interpreted. When a
circumstance shows up in your life and these are always neutral – in other
words circumstances are not bad or good but depend on your interpretation of
them and you have a conscious choice as to how you will view or define these
and these definitions will be the result of you defaulting back to your mind’s
storage of the past - blended with your interpretation or definition of what is
happening now.
Therefore if
you are coming from a love perspective you will interpret these in a positive
way, however if you are coming from a fear position you will do the opposite
and define them in a negative way.
The question
is simply – how do you want to live your life – from a fear or love position
and the decision you make will be continuously reinforced by actions, choices
and behaviors that are congruent with this belief or expectation.
You know
which of these emotional states are dominant in your life. If not just look around you or within
you. Are you always stressed,
pessimistic, upset, disappointed, frustrated, impatient, anxious, isolated or
angry? Or, are you always accepting,
playful, happy, involved and friendly?
You can’t be
both positive and negative at the same time.
Yes, you can fluctuate back and forth between these based on your
interpretation of various situations or events, but in every case one or the
other will dominate and this domination will always be based on your; mindsets,
life philosophy, attitudes, expectations, interpretation of past experiences
and knowledge.
If you don’t
like living in a fearful state of mind you can change this, but it takes,
courage, patience, awareness, knowledge, discipline, desire and action - none
of which are easy if you are or have been dominated in the past by a negative
or fearful mental state. But we always
have a choice as to how we live from moment to moment. We can let circumstances control our lives,
emotions and reactions or we can take back control.
“The flocks fear the wolf, the crops the
storm and
the trees the wind.”
Virgil
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