What are you taking for granted in life . . .

What are you taking for granted in life?

Tim Connor

It constantly amazes me what so many people take for granted in life every day; whether their health, career, someone’s love or even the 60+ beats of their heart every minute of every hour of every day.  Have you ever really thought that in any given moment you are less than five minutes away from death?  Not trying to be morbid here but the average number of deaths every day in the US alone is over 8000 people.  Could you be one of them tomorrow?



Why do people take things for granted and fail to have gratitude for little daily blessings or victories?  Yes, when you win the Lotto, do you say thank you or do you say, “I deserved that?”  Are you routinely filled with appreciation for the over three trillion chemical reactions every second in your body that allow you to laugh, hear, walk, see, learn, smile or just think without conscious effort, awareness or attention?



I’ll bet if you suddenly lost your eyesight you would feel gratitude for the years you could see.  If you were in an auto accident and had to use crutches for three months, I’ll bet you would feel appreciation for the ability to walk before that unexpected event.



Is it ego, a belief of entitlement or something more that causes people to take so many things in life for granted?  I think it’s something more.  I have lost many things during my life, but I can tell you that several times a day I thank God for each and every one of my life’s gifts and blessings no matter how small or seemingly insignificant.



I believe that most people are so self-focused these days that they never even think to thank life or God or who or whatever you believe in for all of the blessings you have received, are receiving and possibly will receive.  So many people expect that life should happen the way they want, expect or believe they deserve, that bad stuff won’t happen to them for any number of reasons.  They feel like they are even invincible, and that life should only happen on their terms.  Well, I have news for you, unless you have discovered this for yourself and don’t need my reminder, that nothing or no one is immune to life’s adversity, trauma, uncertainties or unexpected negative events.



Just look at the hundreds of people who have lost their homes in the past due to tornadoes, hurricanes or floods.  Do you think that one minute before or even a week before they lost everything that these folks said thank you for what they had?  I seriously doubt it.



How about you?  What are you taking for granted?  That your children will grow up safe and happy and secure?  That you will have a job next week?  That your health will not become a burden?  That you will always have your sight, the ability to remember or just enjoy each new day and each new event?



Millions of people every day face adversity that they didn’t expect or feel they deserved but, in the end, Tornadoes or drunk drivers don’t give a rip about your personal views.  When the economy is in chaos millions of people lose their homes and jobs.  Did they deserve these outcomes?  I’ll bet in most cases no, but in the end, our expectations, beliefs, and attitudes about what we deserve or are entitled to is a very fragile set of circumstances.



I have friends who have died at an early age - relatives who have had to deal with serious family challenges and have met total strangers during my travels that their stories would bring tears to your eyes in a heartbeat.



Life is a very fragile gift and the sooner you stop taking things for granted the sooner you will have inner peace, happiness, contentment and feel gratitude every minute for all of life’s gifts and blessings no matter how small or insignificant they might seem to you now.



Just start saying thank you more often to everything and everyone and you might be surprised at how it lifts your spirit as well as theirs.

Life is not a "dress rehearsal" . . .

Life is not a dress rehearsal . . .

Tim Connor

Each of us is born, spend all our days searching for peace, success, love, happiness, freedom, pleasure and then we die. Some people leave a positive legacy behind while others leave a destructive one. Some people contribute to the lives of their fellow man while others only take from society. And some people have a positive impact on the world while others have a negative one.

Why the difference? I can't answer that question in 200 words.

What I can say is, that each of us has the gift of a new day, a new chance and a new responsibility to serve if we were blessed enough to see another sunrise.

Life is not a dress rehearsal for something later or better. Each day is the first and last act of the personal performance of our lives. Some people seem to live with the illusion that life will be better when they are older, wiser, richer, more famous, happier, busier, better looking, retired, or a million other reasons. Not so. Life is either good or not good, now regardless of your circumstances. Yes, you may be richer later, but who is to say you will need or even want the wealth later? Yes, you may be wiser later in life but who is to say you were not wise now? Yes, you may be more famous later but what does real fame mean?

So many people chase the illusions of life with a rigorous zeal hoping that somehow life will be better "when or if". Sorry folks. Life is now. This is not a dress rehearsal for your next life.

Yes, we can change, learn, grow and improve to help make what's next in our life better in some way, but there are no guarantees they will work, or we will be able to enjoy or benefit from them.

So bask in the sunshine or the shade, whichever you prefer, now, be happy now, have fun now, love now, work now, spend money now, save for a rainy day now, and feel gratitude for the life you have, now it's all that is guaranteed!

It doesn't really get better (and this depends on how each of us chooses to define better) later, just different. If you are not happy where you are now - it's unlikely you will be even happier where you aren't - yet. Life is not about tomorrow or yesterday. It is about now. So, don't worry if you forget your lines, misplace your costume - today is not the dress rehearsal it's - SHOWTIME!

So . . . you think you really know me!

So, you think you really know me!

Tim Connor

So . . . you think you really know me – my faults and my strengths, my history and my goals, my fears, and my desires and yes, all the pain and disappointments, failures and troubles and yes, achievements I have had?  Well, I have news for you – I don’t really know you and you will never really know me. Let me ask you - do any of us really know anyone? Will we ever really know anyone? Can we ever really know anyone? The answers are; no, no and NO.  Don’t believe me . . . read on.


I am not going to bore you with my past history of failure and success, pain and achievement and desires and disappointments and I am not going to ask you to share all of yours with me on our honeymoon, when we meet for dinner, sit side by side at a meeting or meet as strangers passing in the night, but suffice it to say we all have a history that no one and I mean no one will ever know everything there is to know about what makes us “us”.  Having spoken to over a million people in twenty-five countries I know what it feels like to be judged by others who, by the way have no right (keep reading) to do so. But I digress.


Why is so much the world so judgmental today acting as if they are perfect and not flawed or we are not worthy of their respect, compassion, and understanding?


Ever met someone, a; homeless person, millionaire, politician, younger person or someone in their final years and decided because of your interpretation of their circumstances they did not deserve your time, interest, compassion or respect?  Ever met someone who had it all and because they did, they became your idol and your future life model for who you wanted to become in your life, without knowing anything about them except what they wanted you to know?


During my global travels, I have met many wonderful people whose life was not dedicated to trying to convince me they were better or smarter than me and I have met many people who went out of their way to try and get me to believe they were not flawed, broken or weak in some way.


I have had many mentors and heroes during my life and one of the common traits of all of them was their humility, integrity, self-depreciation, and kindness regardless of their wealth, fame, success or lack of all or any of these.


I don’t care if you are my parent, spouse, best friend or sibling, you can never know the extent of my life trials, pain, fears and frustrations and I can never know all of yours.  If this is true and I believe it is why do so many people make stupid, unworthy and unreliable assumptions or opinions about so many people whether friends, relatives, politicians, taxi drivers, acquaintances or even total strangers?


Is it arrogance or ego?  Insecurity or immaturity? Stupidity or just plain insanity?  I don’t have a clue but what I do know is that I will guarantee during your life you will be judged incorrectly by someone else because they had no idea of the struggles or achievements you had experienced or weathered during your many years.  And I will also guarantee that you have done the same at some point about someone else.  So, the question remains – why?


In a few words let me share what I believe are the five major reasons why this is one of today’s realities of life as we know it.


First – few people can admit their true weaknesses and brokenness in any life areas to others so the rest of us are left with our own interpretations, impressions or ideas about you and your life and where you are and how you got there.  Yes, there are some folks who can fess up about their wounds, mistakes, failures, and frustrations but they are few and far between.


Second – it is my opinion that society - - and the “selfie” orientation today along with all of the social media opportunities - - only wants to; see, talk about, witness and admit the good and great stuff and keep the negative stuff and often the truth hidden forever from everyone.   Yes, there are many who are not part of this social network of needy people, but I believe we are in the majority.


Third – None of us are or ever will be perfect.  We are all human, flawed, weak, stupid and insecure in some way regardless of the house we live in, our bank balance, our age, position or any other life circumstance.  And yes, we are all clever, smart, intuitive, influential and positive in many ways as well.  The question in life is – can we be as honest about the weaknesses as we can about the positives?


Fourth – Some people come into our lives to help us and some come for us to help them. Whether family, friends, co-workers or strangers we were put on this earth to influence, serve or help someone else or others in some way.  We were not put here to just take selfies, post photos on Facebook or expect the world to bow or cave to all of our demands or expectations. Get over it – there will always be people better off than you, smarter than you, better looking than you, richer than you, etc. (group one) and there will always be people poorer than you, uglier than you, stupider than you and worse off than you (group two). But neither group deserves the scorn, disapproval or ridicule of people on the other side because I will guarantee that there are people in group one who have done some really stupid things and there are people in group two who in some ways are like a Saint.


Fifth – And finally (yes there are others, but I know you have other things to do so I have tried to keep this short as possible) everyone on earth wants a few of the same things – happiness, security, safety, respect, and love. The problem is that far too many people - sacrifice themselves and who they are and what they believe – to achieve, gain or find these in life.  They give up their dreams to find the right life partner.  They give up their integrity to keep a job.  They keep quiet when their values, morals or ideas are challenged by others to avoid conflict.  And, they cave to the demands and expectations of certain groups or life, in general, to not be seen as a trouble-maker, change agent or even worthy of the respect that their simple humanity gives them.


You have the right to be you.  You have the right to grow.  You have the right to change.  You have the right to fail.  You have the right to succeed.  You the right to prosper.  You have the right to your opinions, beliefs, and values.  Just keep in mind that just because you have these rights does not eliminate them from my life as well.  Your right is not to diminish or ridicule my right to my circumstances, beliefs, values as long as both of us – “important” do not harm each other in any way – physically, morally or publicly.

If you want anything to change - try looking in the mirror!

If you want anything to change

– try looking in the mirror!

Tim Connor

If you are overweight – it’s most likely because you have accepted your condition.  If you are broke – it’s probably because you are unwilling to do what you need to do to get out from under.  If you are staying in a negative relationship – I’ll wager, it’s because you have settled for one or more reasons.  If you are in a career or job you hate – I’ll bet it’s because you are being driven by fear and doubt rather than faith and/or trust. If your health is not ideal, I’m guessing that there is some personal behavior that is in one way or another contributing to your malaise. If you have a department or staff section in your organization that is not performing to expectations – I’ll guarantee it’s because you tolerate the behavior, or you may be even contributing to it with your management style. Life is a process, not an event.  You are always moving toward something or away from it and “it” is a neutral concept.  “It” doesn’t judge, persuade, reward or blame “it” is just is life one moment, one day and one year at a time.


As the author of 80+ books (and a few bestsellers), I’ll guarantee that at least one person reading this is taking issue with one or all of the above statements and you know why?  Well, there could be many reasons, but the basic ones are; blame, denial, arrogance, ignorance, a victim mindset or just out of touch with reality.  Or, because they are unwilling to look in the mirror and admit that if a change is going to happen in their life it will never happen as long as they feel they are not responsible.  If you disagree with my premises so far, why not write an article yourself explaining your point of view?


But, let me get to my point before I lose all of you.


We can blame life (others, parents, advertising, the media, the government, social media, our gender, our race, our religion, our age – need I go on) for our life circumstances – or – we can look in the mirror.  And, this folks - is never or always easy which is why so few people ever do it.


Blame is stupid.  Regret is dumb. Denial helps nothing. Shame doesn’t improve life. I could go on with dozens of more emotions or words like these that describe negative feelings. And then there is joy, gratitude, responsibility, acceptance, compassion, and maturity, to share the other side of the subject. But I hope I have made my point so far – that what we are feeling is not always an accurate representation of what is going on, but simply our interpretation, explanation or opinion of what is going on. And trust me, most people’s interpretation is generally compatible with what they are comfortable with and not always what makes the most sense to deal effectively with an issue, circumstance, person or challenge.


So, we always have two ways to look at any life situation – the truth (reality) or our version of truth (reality). Curious - which one of these two approaches do you think will help us deal most effectively with a life issue or situation most effectively? Back to that question in a minute.


So here is a quick scenario I once used to justify some personal circumstances that kept me stuck until I was willing to look in the mirror.


Many years ago, my parents wouldn’t pay for my college education.  So, I tried for three years to make some progress on my own but just couldn’t pull it off, so I joined the Air Force and picked up three years of college credits while serving for four years.


When I got out of the military, I spent far too many years in emotional blame mode for their lack of help, compassion and what I perceived as – understanding.  No, let me restate that - I wasted far too many years carrying this negative emotion into every area of my life.  Finally, I was able to let it go and as a result, many years later I have had numerous audiences around the world where everyone present had more education than me and were all probably smarter than me. Go figure!


Yes, I have many stories like this as I’m sure you do too but my question is simply – are any of your stories getting in the way of happiness, success, inner peace, etc. because you can’t or won’t face them, deal with them, admit them – whatever?


Blame, regret, anger, denial - all of these and more prevent us from overcoming issues that will haunt us for years if we let them.  They will keep us stuck preventing inner peace, success in careers or relationships.  Don’t believe me; a few statistics that I believe are connected or at least in some way related to this challenge;


The divorce rate in the US has been between 45-55% for years.

The suicide rate in the US – average is 135 per day.

The obesity rate in the US – 39%.

Drug, alcohol, cigarette addiction affects – in the US over 1 million people die every year due to these three.


Need more? Cause there are plenty I could share – but, I don’t.


Want a better life in any way before you leave here – look in the mirror.  Knows someone who needs to look in the mirror. Keep trying until you can get them too.

Every day you are another day closer to . . .

Every day you are another day closer to . . .

Tim Connor

. . . closer to what? Well, think about it - closer to your last day.  I'm not being morbid here, believe me, but I'm asking you to consider - do you know how much time you have left? If not sure how to answer this - I'll do it for you - No One does!  

And yet it's amazing how many people act as if they have forever by squandering days, weeks and even years with no purpose, passion, joy or a sense of adventure and gratitude for the time they are given.

Retire if you will.  Quit if you must.  Give up if you are tired of fighting. Surrender if you feel like life is over. Had enough? OK - Settle if you feel you don't deserve better. Stop trying if you are tired of losing. Cave into others if you are over being criticized, invalidated or belittled. Trust me I can go on with this babble if you want but personally - it's hard to even write this stuff sometimes.

Life is very short and fragile folks.  If you had told me when I was in my twenties that I would be this old now I would have laughed until I cried.  No way. Well, trust me I'll bet some of you might feel the same way.

Why do we wait, postpone, give up, stop trying or just feel like enough is enough and it's time to just let - 'whatever will be will be' - rule our final or closing years however many we feel we might have?

Is it just life wearing us down?  Pride? Our definition of what our final chapter should be like? Or, could it be something more that we haven't taken the time to identify or consider?

During my life regretfully having wasted a lot of days, weeks and even a few years on a few occasions in my career, in a few relationships and life in general, I am in no position to preach, but I do have the right to share what I have learned during my many years.  So here goes.

A great deal of the quality of life is determined by how we define and respond to; adversity, failure, opportunities, success, problems, disappointment, rejection, achievements, and so many other life experiences.

But in the end, we have a choice - let them define us or define them according to our life philosophy, purpose or mission.

We are all going to leave here with either; stuff in our "in-basket" and/or unfinished business, words not said and relationships that needed something done or undone before they ended.  The only way to avoid any or all of these life mistakes is to be "perfect" and trust me none of us are or ever will be - no matter how egotistical, psycho, narcissistic or arrogant some folks "don't think" they are.

So, life's nagging questions of us for everyone sooner or later are always - why aren't you____________?  When are you going to stop____________? When are you going to start__________?  What are you waiting for? When are you going to fix__________? Got a few of your own?  Now might be a good time to ask them.

Life flies by faster than we can possibly imagine and the opportunities we missed or passed up, the things we didn't say or do just keep piling up faster and faster.

Hundreds of people every day are told - you only have so much time to live.  Know anyone like that?  Is it you?  Known someone who had to deal with this? The truth is that each of us is told this every day, oh, not by Physicians or counselors but by life. And the final question I will leave you with is - are you listening?

It’s becoming a very different world and a not so good in

It’s becoming a very different world and a not so good in many ways!

Tim Connor

As I reflect on where we seem to be today as a society versus just a few short years ago I have to wonder – will we as a world and society in the US like where we end up in a few years if we keep heading in this crazy, dubious and out of control direction?

Just consider a few of the simple things like – common courtesies, basic manners, caring more about others than yourself, the ability to share your thoughts and ideas freely without concern for retribution or backlash, the ability to dress, yes respectably, but freely.  The ability to travel without fear.  The lack of selfie-oriented behaviors.  The ability to challenge people who are misrepresenting the truth that is evident to everyone but the person talking.  The ability to freely express your spiritual values or beliefs without getting thrown out of school, work or the local pub. Need I go on?

And then there are the family areas where you used to spend time together sharing and talking, guiding and helping and listening.   And now, “Alexa” telling you what to do, how to do it and when plus letting a device with batteries and a screen rule your every waking minute.

I could go on for pages but I’ll keep this to three simple areas of concern that I believe everyone should have at the forefront of their minds and agendas before it’s too late and we are too far down the wrong path as a society with no chance of ever getting back some sanity, common sense, dignity, and civility.

For those of you who have ever read one of my many books or articles, you are well aware that I am not a negative or pessimistic person but do my best at all times and in all situations to deal just in my take on current reality.  The basic problem is that everyone sees and often defines reality differently depending on their own experience, education, values, expectations, and beliefs.

Yes, there are many more areas to be concerned about that I feel are critical but I believe the three I am mentioning are interwoven into all of the others; such as; freedom, security, financial issues, global issues and many more but I’m sure you have a lot on your plate so I’ll just deal briefly with the three. Please keep in mind – I am not dealing here with politics, race, religion, ethnicity, age or lifestyle - so if you choose to read that into my message – you have indirectly proven what I have implied by much of this article.

Here are the three primary areas I mentioned.

 1)The freedom to speak your mind, thoughts, values, beliefs, opinions and yes in a respectful and compassionate way without the concern of someone who may disagree with you slamming you on social media, even physically or in some other public or private way.

2) The gradual erosion of uniqueness, to be able to be you regardless of the world's opinion of you.

3) The loss of spiritual and religious freedom to worship without having to have the police guarding your church, synagogue, temple or mosque or the public mocking of people demonstrating loudly outside while you are trying to worship inside.

Think I’m wrong about the direction of these and other areas of dramatic social change ahead?  Then wake up. 

1)The freedom to speak your mind, thoughts, values, beliefs, opinions.

Let me be clear - I am not; anti-technology or any government, most laws, or against any legal movement by any group, but I am anti anything that takes away our freedom to be who we are, to be who we can become in the future and say what we believe or feel as long as we respect the rights and freedoms of others. When we change or shut ourselves down with the concern for disapproval or rejection of others for what we do or say – let me repeat – with respect and compassion - we lose our freedom to be, our independence and the right to be and grow.

In many ways, this trend of editing behavior and speech is negatively impacting simple lifestyles, common sense, everyday courtesy, and simple manners.  I actually said thank you to someone last week for a simple thing they did and then they spent the next two minutes bashing me verbally to mind my own business – and all because of a simple thank you!

2)The gradual erosion of uniqueness, to be able to be you regardless of the world's opinion of you.

Yes, folks, there are males and females on the earth regardless of how you want to define gender.  Yes, I am free to wear shorts in the middle of winter and yes, I don’t have to agree with old guys getting earrings, young women plastering their body with Tattoos and kids living off their parents in their 30’s – and so many more.  You have a right to be you and I have a right not to like who you are or what you do but I don’t have the right to stop you from doing it.  Get it?  We both are unique in so many ways and if I let you or society rob me of my uniqueness than what’s the point of living?

Yes, many politicians, government employees, and people, in general, have some really far out beliefs, opinions, and attitudes and I’m ok with that because I have a mute button on my remote or I can walk away from a conversation and I can always unfriend you.  But I don’t have the right – as a boss, parent (once my kids hit 18), spouse or stranger to tell you what you can believe, do or feel.

3)The loss of spiritual and religious freedom to worship without having to have the police guarding your church, synagogue, temple or mosque or the public mocking or demonstrating loudly outside while you are trying to worship inside.

Over the years due to any number of rules, challenges by certain groups and a variety of other social pressures – spiritual values, behaviors, and attitudes have gradually left the classroom, college campuses, government agencies and any number of communities at large.

I’m neither supporting or arguing against these practices just asking you to consider – is there a trend here with the purpose subtle or overt to rid us of the ability to worship, pray or even often care about others in our society whether neighbors, fellow employees or just fellow citizens. Look, folks, If I want to say Merry Christmas instead of Happy Holidays – that’s my right and don’t try and make me feel guilty or belittle me because I do it.  You don’t have to say it, and I won’t care what you say or how you refer to it – it’s your right too.

My concern here is, in general, that we as a society and country are giving in too easily or quickly to the pressures from often minority groups or even just a few individuals to change us.

If you are offended because I wear a T-shirt with a cross on – “get over it.” If you don’t like Christmas trees in your community – move to another community.  If you don’t like our basic and fundamental rights where you live - yes, move to another country.

Your Life's report card

Your life’s report card

Tim Connor

Remember when you were in high school or even elementary school you used to get a report card every few months?  If you behaved, did your homework and studied, you might have received a B or even an A.

But if you slacked off in some or every way you most likely had to explain to your parents why you got a D or even an F.

Basically, your grade was your teacher’s opinion or rating of how they felt you were doing with your responsibilities, actions, and behaviors.

Think you are still getting report cards today when you are in your 30’s or even your 60’s? Oh, the teachers have most likely retired or have moved on to new classes and different students but trust me, life is still giving you a report card- every day, every month and yes, every year.

It might not be a piece of paper with a bunch of letters or numbers on it but believe me, you are still getting reviews on how the people in your life believe you are doing?

And who are these people?  They are your; customers, bosses, spouses, kids, fellow employees and often even some of the strangers that pass through your life like; flight attendants, restaurant servers, mechanics or your physicians.

No, they all don’t give you a written report, but they do evaluate – who you are, how you act, what you believe and even how you may treat them.

So, If I still have you, what kinds of grades do you think you are getting from; a spouse (not referring here to counselling sessions) , your boss (and I’m not talking about your annual reviews), your kids (and I’m not talking about the grades they are getting in school or on the soccer field), your customers (and I’m not talking about how much money you might be making from them) or your family physician (and I’m not talking about your annual physical or check-up)?

Unfortunately, most people (and I’m including myself in this group) wait until they are failing at something or something just stops working before they make changes, attempt improvement, modify behavior or just admit that what they are doing is or will some day give them an F.

Let me give you an updated grading system that is a bit more relevant to life than the report cards you used to get.  I call it My Life as it is Report card.

You are getting an A -

Notice I didn’t include an A+ in this group? It’s simple – none of us are perfect, we all have flaws, we all make mistakes and sooner or later we all fail at something.  An A means you are exceeding life’s expectations.  You are learning, growing, maturing and recognizing life areas where you need further improvement.  Your ego isn’t running your life. Your arrogance is under control and your patience is not demanding you do something or everything faster, better and/or easier. Your need for control is under control.  Your stress is not killing you. And your spiritual life is ruled by humility, peace, giving and compassion. Yes, there are a few more items that are contributing to your – A - grade but in the end, the ones above are the primary factors that are saying to you - you are on the right path, keep going. But, be careful you don’t lose the above items, or the consequences could be dramatic.

You are getting a B –

Take all of the above-mentioned items and just reduce the definition, for example.

You are learning, growing, maturing and recognizing life areas where you need further improvement, but you are not doing as much as you could or need to do.  Your ego isn’t running your life, but it has its moments depending on the person or situation. Your arrogance is not a serious issue, but it could be. Your lack of patience is often demonstrated by your hurrying or need to do something faster, better and/or easier. Your need for control is not under control.  Your stress is not killing you yet but is having a negative impact on some area of your health, relationships or life in general. And your spiritual needs more time, attention, effort and/or better awareness.

You are getting a C –

A C means you are average in all of the above areas.  You are not in serious trouble anywhere yet, but you are also not moving in the right or best life direction.  If you don’t make some changes soon – you could very quickly find yourself in the D or even F categories.  It’s time to wake up and recognize that life isn’t easy, fast, accommodating or revolves around your needs, expectations or desires. It’s time to grow up and it’s time to let go of your “the world owes me” and/or your “selfie mindsets”. This is a life crossroads where you can change direction in a positive or a more negative way and destructive way.  You can begin to move into B territory and start getting better, stronger, wiser or healthier or you can wake up one day and realize you are failing, and it could be too late to change.

You are getting a D –

A D means you are heading towards disaster and time is running out.  Make some changes soon or before you know it life will give you an F.  And believe me an F can be costly, uncomfortable, painful and even deadly.  A D says you still have some time to fix some things, but life is gradually losing its patience with you.  It says, “I guess the only way we can get your attention at this time is with some kind of jolt, disaster or circumstance (a divorce, a bankruptcy, a heath attack or getting fired).”  Don’t wait too long – the pain of turning a life around at this stage can cause many people to stop trying or just give up entirely in life accepting the consequences of the next and final grade – an F.

You are getting an F –

An F means – you have failed and will spend a lot of time and your remaining life; alone, afraid, in regret, angry, resentful etc.  It is now time to pay the price of all of your mistakes, failures and poor choices and behaviors.  Can you recover?  Of course. Can you rebound?  Yes.  Can you begin again? Always.  Can you get a second chance? Yes.  But at this stage, it will require a great deal of; humility, effort, surrender, admission, time, patience, hope and help and guidance from others.  And, it will require accepting letting go of control of what life brings to you and the willingness to trust God during your return to sanity.

So, give yourself a grade today in; your finances, your marriage, your career, your business, your health, your social life, your relationships, your family and your spiritual direction and its beliefs, values, and actions.