Something
happen today that will or may change your destiny? Meet someone new? Start a new career? Move to a different
state? Get some really bad news? Lose a loved one? Get fired? I can tell you that every day something can
or will happen that has the potential to change your life path and even your
destiny. It has happened to me multiple
times during my life – some good, some bad, some that I still don’t know the
outcome.
Destiny –
where we are headed, how we are remembered, what we leave behind, lives we
touch in a positive or negative way. Who we become as the years pass. We all
will have a destiny and the question is will we determine it or let others or
circumstances control it? Ever thought
about this? I have and over the years I
have learned to see things not just in a now perspective but a destiny one. Let
me elaborate for just a moment – bear with me.
Now is where
we are and live, the present. Our bodies
experience weather and our senses are bombarded with sights, sounds and aromas
every minute even though your thoughts might be stuck somewhere else. To fully experience the present requires a
present and presence awareness moment by moment. Many call this mindfulness. So at any given
time our emotions and feelings and bodily experiences are in the now but our
thoughts can be a million miles or years apart.
This can
often create a dysfunction in terms of how we behave and decisions we
make. As a result, we may often make
choices or decisions based on our current emotional state with little regard
for future consequences or outcomes. In
other words, we lack a destiny vision grounded in wisdom, common sense or even
maturity. And without these guiding our journey sooner or later we will create
a future filled with regret, frustration, disappointment and often despair and
or discouragement let alone a stressful inner environment.
So, what’s
the answer or solution to better dealing with this process? Well, it’s not easy but it is simple. Here are a few things to consider.
1) Pay attention to your emotions and
feelings as they are always driven by your thoughts and ask yourself does this
feel right? If it does feel right given
your current state of affairs this doesn’t mean it is right in terms of
tomorrow or next year. So the next question must always be – am I aware of all
of the potential consequences if I _________? This requires self-honesty and
the ability to see your situation with a fresh and unbiased set of eyes. I said it wasn’t easy.
2) Before you act, share your situation,
circumstances, decision options with someone you trust and respect who will
give you observations, awareness or feedback that is not opinionated, critical or
prejudiced in any way.
3) Study the book of Proverbs daily and
I don’t mean just read but consider, contemplate and relate its teachings to
your situations.
4) Listen to your inner voice as it will
always speak to you. It will give you
nudges, urgings, hunches but you have to listen. In the end your inner guidance will always be
looking out for your long term and not your immediate fears, needs, desires or
concerns.
5) Sleep on it. One, two or a few days.
6) Write your concerns in a journal and
then just write whatever comes into your mind when you ask yourself – what
should I do with this situation, person or choice?
7) Set some long term goals, lifetime
goals and develop a personal vision and mission statement. If you more on how
to do this send me an email request – it’s on me.
8) Keep a decision journal. Start writing down every decision you make –
just the ones in areas where you have historically been unsure of what to do
and keep a record of the consequences of each of these decisions as they take
place or become reality.
9) Hold yourself accountable in all ways
and in all things and at all times.
10)Learn to spend a few minutes or even an
hour every day in meditation.
Now get
started.
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