The value of pain
Tim Connor
No one likes pain: emotional, physical or
spiritual pain. Each of us wants to sail
through life from birth to death without ever having:
-been betrayed.
-been abandoned.
-been lied to.
-failed.
-had insurmountable problems.
-risked it all and lost.
-been disappointed.
-And this list goes on and on and on.
I for one know the value of pain. I have had my share during my life. I know the pain of loss, failure, abandonment
and all of the ones on the list plus a few. You too have had some kind of pain, I
guarantee it. I don’t care how old or
young you are - no one escapes this teaching tool that life uses to - soften
us, humble us, mold us, take the arrogance or fear from us or just teach us
there is a more for us to do in this life, and we can’t do it until our rough
edges have been smoothed out.
Those of you who have reached this day
without any significant pain in your life are missing - so far - a wonderful
opportunity for growth. Now, I am well
aware it is difficult to convince someone that a divorce, loss of a loved one
or a job or any other adversity is a blessing and an opportunity to grow. However, having spent my life travelling
through these many years and having the wonderful privilege of meeting thousands
of people around the world, I have come to a conclusion: sooner or later everyone who has experienced
some form of pain, when they look back on it, agree that it was a time of
testing, yes, but a time of growth and learning as well. Here are a few of the
benefits of pain that I have learned over the years. Pain:
1. Introduces you to who you really are.
2. Let’s you have a peek into the future.
3. Releases great creativity.
4. Begins the healing process.
5. Is a signal that something needs to
change.
6. Helps you see that you have choices.
7. Gives you the opportunity to grow or
remain stuck.
8. Is impersonal. It isn’t picking on any one group or
individual.
9. Develops in you the capacity to handle
more pain in the future.
10. Helps keep you focused in the present
moment.
Don’t ever deaden the pain you are
feeling. Get in touch with it. Feel it. Understand it. Learn from it. Use it. And then move on through it. Then let
it go.
Let me conclude with a lesson I learned from
one of my mentors – Eric Butterworth.
When in the depths of financial despair
years ago as a speaker and author he shared a simple lesson with me through his
writing. He said, “The greatest times of
creativity in your life can come during periods of personal pain. Use these times to release all that you are
and all you can do.”
I have written over 75 books but after
writing my first one in 1981 (Soft Sell – which today is still the number one
best-selling book in the world in 25 languages) I wrote nothing for fifteen
years. After Eric’s counsel the flood
gate opened and I have averaged writing 3-4 books a year. Not all have come from periods of pain, but
he showed me how to use all emotional states whether positive or negative, to
use them in a positive way.
Experiencing pain today? Use it for growth. His book that helped me is
titled – ‘In The Flow of Life’ (It’s still in print. Read it if you are going through any pain in
your life.)
“Doubt is a pain too
lonely to know that faith is his twin brother.”
Gibran
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