Are
you - where you want to be in your life?
Tim
Connor
Are you where you want to be in life – financially, health-wise,
relationships or your career?
Silly
question? I don’t think so. I’ve asked myself this question dozens of
times during my life and I have to admit more often than not the answer to one
of the life areas was – no.
In life, you can only be one of three places (I’m being
general here) – where you were or have been, where you are now and where you
will be in the future. I know this might
at first seem a bit confusing but think about it – for example - where are you
now – in your car, your office your kitchen or backyard – these are the simple questions.
Where do you want to be tomorrow (in life) the hard questions? To have this approach work for you in a
constructive way - keep the broader topics in mind generally and don’t get into
the weeds about every single life area – just consider the bigger picture of
your life.
For example in the future - you want to be with someone or
with someone different, you want to be working somewhere else or retired, you
want to be better off financially or you want to rid yourself of this current
negative health condition that is plaguing you now – yes there are hundred’s
more questions like these – I used these to keep the process but not
necessarily the results – simple.
So, here’s the challenge. You will ultimately be tomorrow where
today is taking you - so if you want to be somewhere different in the future,
you have to take the action to get there - today.
Fail to take it and tomorrow you will be in
the same place you are now – and again to be clear - I’m not talking here about
whether you are in your car or in the kitchen, I’m confident if you are still
reading you have figured out the subtleties I am trying to share here.
So, where do you want to be that’s a different place tomorrow? Go ahead take a minute and jot down a few
items like – better or different; job, relationship, where you live, what you
drive, who your friends are, how healthy you are, your financial condition- go
ahead – write them down – as many as you can (I’m not talking here about
setting goals, creating dreams or making plans) - trust me you can’t get there
if you are not clear about where “there” is. And why – well if you don’t know
what you want them to be tomorrow - do you think the chances are that things
will change or be different tomorrow than they are today? Dumb question – I
know!
I will guarantee that everyone wants something better, new
or different tomorrow in some area of their life – to be younger, to be with
different people, to be healthier, to be living someplace new, to look better,
to be happier, to be ___________, etc. Whether it’s a small difference or a
major one is not the issue – what is the issue – is your willingness to either
let go of the wish, goal, plan or desire – essentially give up or settle - OR
to take the necessary moves or steps or make the necessary changes today to get
there or to start to make it happen.
Why do people wish for something better or different and
then do nothing to get there? Why do
they settle? Why do they give up or in?
Why do they quit? I could go on for hours or pages but how about just three (yes
there are many more) quick reasons; 1) The fear of the unknown future – will it
really be better or different or should I just stay where I am? Can I control
the future? What if it doesn’t turn out the way I hoped? 2)The fear of
rejection or failure – what if I try and don’t succeed? What if I go for it and people laugh at me
for doing so at this stage or time in my life? 3)The fear of success. What if I do go for it and get it or achieve
it and it doesn’t live up to my expectations or needs? What if my life changes
in a way I didn’t anticipate?
Here’s the major problem that you are facing if you have
any of these three fears – you are tending to define your future by your past
or present; experiences, attitudes, outcomes, choices, etc. In other words, you have always struggled
financially so why expect that the future will be any different. You have always been disappointed in
relationships so why should you anticipate that the future will be better or
different? Everyone, you know in your age group, gender, race, religion, etc.
has never done what you want to do? So, why
try. Got it – with these mindsets you are letting the decisions or choices of
others or your past rule your ultimate future.
No one knows what is around the next corner regardless of whether
you are broke or a millionaire, stupid or the smartest person in the room, healthy
or really sick, beautiful or handsome or ugly as sin, etc. No one knows how
actions, choices, decisions or anything will always be or turn out tomorrow. It’s all about desire, faith, courage,
passion, effort, and acceptance and yes – resilience, self-trust, patience, and
hope. If you don’t have these – stay
stuck. If you have them - go for it.
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