A speaker invitation . . .

AN INVITATION - I am starting a global speaker referral group called "Elite Speakers Referral Network. The Basics - You must be a paid speaker minimum of 12 gigs a year, no ongoing membership fees, group size 6-12 members, share a minimum of one client referral per month to the group, (that was active within the past 3 years) must have been a full time paid speaker for a minimum of ten years. There are currently 3 members so once we hit our first threshold we will launch the website and begin the process. If you want to know more or are interested - contact me - timspeaks4u@gmail.com.

Gents - stop wasting money - please check this offer.

Gentlemen - you have 28 days before the big one - "Valentine's Day."  A couple of statistics to get your attention;

-88% of the gift's men give to women are never worn, used or are returned. 

- of the remaining 12% most are not liked or appreciated.

-The average amount men spend on Valentine's day is $150 - $200.

-Men spent over 18 billion dollars on Valentine's day 2018.

Do I have your attention?

I want to help you avoid another year of stupid gifts and wasted money.

My all-time bestselling book - "The Male Gift-Giving Guide, The Rules & Taboos of Giving Gifts to Women" will do two things for you - save you money and ensure that what you do give her or do for her will make her laugh, give her tears of joy and she will love you even more than you ever thought possible.  It's a quick and easy read (120+ pages) and has sold thousands of copies over the years - Let me ask you - would you spend 20 bucks to create a special day that will be remembered and cherished for years? Or do you want to keep spending money like an idiot on stuff she doesn't want, like or appreciate?

This book is not on my site as it isn't a business type book but I'm making you a special offer -

For only $15. I'll send you the eBook version.

Just email me - "Tim I'm interested"  TO - timspeaks4u@gmail.com and I will send you a simple form to complete your order or you can just call me with your order details - 704-875-1230.

Trust me - this will be one of the best and cheapest investments you have ever made in your relationship that could be worth a fortune over the years - I promise.

Don't wait - time is running out . . .

A simple "thank you Tim" will be appreciated after you have made this day one of the most memorable in your relationship.

Every day you are another day closer to . . .

Every day you are another day closer to .  .  .

Tim Connor

Closer to what? Well, think about it – closer to your last day.  I’m not being morbid here, believe me, but I’m asking you to consider – do you know how much time you have left? If not sure how to answer I’ll do it for you – No One does!  And yet it’s amazing how many people act as they have forever by squandering days, weeks and even years with no purpose, passion, joy or a sense of adventure and gratitude for the time they are given.

Retire if you will.  Quit if you must.  Give up if you are tired of fighting. Surrender if you feel like life is over. Had enough? OK – Settle if you feel you don’t deserve better. Stop trying if you are tired of losing. Cave into others if you are over being criticized, invalidated or belittled. Trust me I can go on with this babble if you want but personally – it’s hard to even write this stuff sometimes.

Life is very short and fragile folks.  If you had told me when I was in my twenties that I would be this old now I would have laughed until I cried.  No way. Well, trust me I’ll bet some of you feel the same way.

Why do we wait, postpone, give up, stop trying or just feel like enough is enough and it’s time to just let – ‘whatever will be will be’ – rule our final or closing years however many we feel we might have.

Is it just life wearing us down?  Pride? Our definition of what our final chapters should be like? Or, could it be something more that we haven’t taken the time to identify or consider?

During my life having wasted a lot of days, weeks and even a few years on a few occasions in my career, some relationships and life in general, I am in no position to preach, but I do have the right to share what I have learned during my 60 + + years.  So here goes.

A great deal of the quality of life is determined by how we define and respond to; adversity, failure, opportunities, success, problems, disappointment, rejection, achievements, and so many other life experiences.

But in the end, we have a choice – let them define us or define them according to our life philosophy, purpose or mission.

We are all going to leave here with either; stuff in our “in-basket” and unfinished business, words not said and relationships that needed something done or undone.  The only way to avoid any or all of these is to be “perfect” and trust me none of us are or ever will be - no matter how egotistical, psycho, narcissistic or arrogant some folks don’t think they are.

So, life’s nagging questions for everyone sooner or later are always – why aren’t you____________?  When are you going to stop____________? When are you going to start__________?  What are you waiting for? When are you going to fix__________? Got a few of your own?  Now might be a good time to ask them.

Life flies by faster than we can imagine and the opportunities we missed or passed up, the things we didn’t say or do just keep piling up faster and faster.

Hundreds of people every day are told – you only have so much time to live.  Know anyone like that?  Is it you?  Known someone who had to deal with this? The truth is that each of us is told this every day, oh not by Physicians or counselors but by life. And the final question I will leave you with is – are you listening?

Do convictions matter?

Do convictions matter?

Tim Connor

Everyone has convictions whether they are aware of them or not and how they contribute to the quality of their life. Our convictions keep moving us closer and closer to their natural outcomes with or without our cooperation or our resistance and whether they are positive or negative.

There are a number of critical life areas that contribute to our ultimate success, happiness and lifestyle, but one of the most important ones is – our convictions.

What is a conviction? It’s simple – it’s something you believe to be true or a firmly help opinion about anything.  It doesn’t matter whether it is true or right or not, the bottom line is that you believe it and it, therefore, influences and often determines many of our behaviors, attitudes, decisions and life outcomes.

We all have convictions about many areas from politics, religion, health, relationships, career to even how people should or should not communicate or talk.

Want just three simple examples?

-      People should not talk loud in public places – it’s rude.

-      I believe that all politicians are stupid.

-      No one has the right to say things like that.

There are millions if not billions of examples that I could use but neither of us has the time or interest in covering them all. What I want to share briefly are the critical factors that contribute to convictions and how they influence the quality of our lives.

A few of the things that contribute to our convictions are; our upbringing, how or where we were educated, the values and beliefs our parents or caregivers gave us, the people we were around during our influential years of our lives (age 4-18), the spiritual foundations that were given to us in our early years, how we needed to behave in order to get other’s approval or validation, what part of the country we were raised in and even our gender, race and age old heritage.  There are others but these over time tend to have the greatest impact on what we believe and why and how we react to life and others.

Trust me – The Irish are often raised differently than Italians and girls are raised differently than boys.  Don’t believe me – just observe many of the social media idiots and what they think is important.  Oh well, don’t get me started on that stuff or I’ll never finish this article.

What really matters is how we responded to these early influential factors and how we let them control to some degree our present or current behaviors, beliefs, values and attitudes. Our convictions that were derived from these historical factors continue to contribute to the quality of our lives as we grow and mature into adults, seniors or even us really old folks.

Here are just a few to consider but first, can convictions be wrong and hurt us as we proceed through life?  You betcha. Wrong convictions about others, including race and gender, can prevent you from learning or growing from many of the valuable or influential people that life may bring into your experience. Wrong convictions about spiritual matters could have a dramatic impact on where or how you spend eternity.  Wrong convictions about health and exercise could shorten your life. And yes, the best or right convictions could have a dramatic positive impact on all of these previous areas as well as many others.

Here are just a few of the life areas that I believe are influenced for either positive or negative outcomes by our convictions.  There are obviously many more but these are some of the important ones.

Your life purpose and its value.

How you communicate with others.

When others challenge your convictions, you cave or give in or remain steadfast.

Your ethics, morals, and integrity.

How you treat others who you disagree with or disagree with you.

Whether you respect or invalidate others who are different in any way.

What contributes to your happiness and inner peace?

What causes regret in your life.

Whether you see life from a victim or life-long student mentality.

How you respond to adversity, failure, and problems.

How others or situations cause tension or stress in your life.

What you need to feel loved or valued.

How you make choices and decisions and then justify them.

Want more?  Ok, just a couple.

How you treat money and why it is or isn’t important.

Your levels of compassion, understanding, and empathy for others.

We are all different in many ways. But in the end are we really better or worse than others because of wealth, education, status or any other factor? I don’t believe so (one of my convictions).  Each us has a history of combined good deeds and stupid mistakes – we are human – but do these mistakes deserve the judgment, scorn or ridicule of others?  “Those of you without sin, cast the first stone.”

Let me leave you with a question -are any of your convictions, regardless of their origin, getting in the way of your success and/or happiness or are they moving you steadily in the right direction, one that someday in the distant future you will look in the mirror and smile and say – yes – I did it – it wasn’t always easy but I lived a life I am proud of.

A few writing guidelines

Some simple writing guidelines

Tim Connor, CSP

I have over 300 articles on LinkedIn and 800 on Ezine articles.com.  The following article during the past few weeks has received more likes than any other I have ever posted on any site. Therefore, I decided to share it this week with my subscribers just in case some of you may be in one of the following three groups (if you are not - hit the enter button on your device to go to your next chore). Group one – you feel “I have a book in me” but you just can’t seem to start it or get it finished. Group two - you may write as a part of your career role or responsibilities – maybe you will pick up a point or two. Group three – you write in a daily journal, are a would-be poet or just like to write.  I hope the following has some value for you.   

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As the author of over 80 books including a few international bestsellers and one million + book – and over 7500 articles - I offer a few simple guidelines I have used to write all these many years. Agree – don’t agree – like them – don’t like them – regardless – see number three.

“Regardless of whether you are a proven published author or are an aspiring wanna-be author - without a few writing rules, you will never achieve your writing potential, purpose or goals.”

As a mentor over the years to numerous authors, I have shared the following guidelines from many years of struggle, failure and frustration and yes success as an author.

1)   Write from the heart, not your mind.

2)   Don’t edit while you write.

3)   Don’t be concerned with other’s opinions of your writing.

4)   Write every day.

5)   Have a completion goal – the timeframe for the conclusion in mind.

6)   Write with purpose, passion, and courage.

7)   Don’t let editors or publishers change your writing style – your name is on the cover.

8)   Write from experience and not superficial or egotistical agendas.

9)   Don’t re-write.  What you created was what is supposed to be written.

10)Don’t let others invalidate your desire or reason for writing.

11)Writing is not about education, fame or style but the ability to be you on paper.

12)Looking back – don’t regret not writing.

13)If what you want to write will help others – who is it helping until it is written?

14)Writer's block is caused by the need to please others or the fear of disapproval.

15)Don’t wait to be accepted by a publisher – you’ll wait forever – self-publish.

16)Use an editor you trust and respect.

17)Write because you want to write – no other reason is more important.

Want to chat about any of the above – contact me – 704-875-1230  timspeake4u@gmail.com.

Special 2019 client offer

Welcome to 2019 . . .

As we begin a new year - I'll keep this short and simple -

 

If you are a previous client or an employee of a former client - please read this short message . . .

As I reflect on a life and career filled with numerous blessings and wonderful opportunities - I decided that 2019 - would be my year of "Pay Back" or as some call it - "Pay if Forward."

As a special thank you to the hundreds of global clients I have worked with all these years - the offer is simple. If you are a previous client - regardless of the service I performed for you - a keynote, a seminar, a long-term training event or the facilitation of a meeting or event - I am offering you a simple "Two for One."

When you commit by the end of January to hire me for any event(s) to take place before the end of this year - for every day you hire me for I will give you a second day on me. The days do not have to be used for the same meeting or event just prior to the end of this year and It isn't necessary at this time to confirm your actual meeting dates.  However, I do request a 50% payment of the fee once you decide to take advantage of this offer - the balance to be paid at the conclusion of the first event.

Just let me know before the end of this month (January 2019) - by phone or email (704-875-1230 / timspeaks4u@gmail.com) - that you want to benefit from this offer.