Reality
is what it is – not what you want it to be
Ever had a disagreement with someone? A spouse, customer,
employee or even a total stranger? Ever
screamed at the TV as you listened to the rantings of some political
Idiot? Ever felt the stress of a
relationship that was filled with tension
or frustration? I could go on with
examples like this, but the question is – is there a common cause or
contributor to all or each of these life situations, struggles or outcomes?
I have had more than my share of people come up to me
after one of my speeches or seminars sharing their disagreements and/or
opinions of what I talked about and how they felt I was wrong or just plain
stupid – not kidding here. Over the
years I have spent a great deal of time and research trying to identify what
the unique circumstances were that created these types of reactions, responses
or behaviors when dealing with others whether in person or at a distance. I finally figured it out.
The single biggest issue that contributes to poor
communication, increased conflict, negative relationships, ineffective employee
performance, declining health, bad decisions, lost business, ineffective
management and declining organization success (need I go on?) - is simple but
not complicated. In a word, it is
“reality or truth”.
Let me explain.
Everyone has opinions, values, attitudes, prejudices, and beliefs that are grounded in personal
experience, upbringing, conditioning, and
education. When blended into a person’s mindsets these create their
personal sense of reality; what is, what is right, what is wrong, what needs to
change etc. etc. The problem gets even worse
when people begin to believe that their sense of reality (the previous stuff
and more) is the “reality” in other words all other views, opinions, attitudes,
beliefs etc. are wrong, outdated, stupid, unnecessary or invalid because they
are different than theirs.
Imagine for a minute the last conflict you had with an
employee, spouse or customer – I will guarantee its source was the attempt by
both of you to validate your own opinion(s) and invalidate the other
person’s. Am I right? Due to current
trends in Political Correctness, Social Media, The Selfie Generation we are
very rapidly losing the ability to develop meaningful relationships – both
business and personal – that are grounded in openness, understanding, tolerance,
and respect.
So, is there a simple answer to this life challenge? Yes and no.
Yes, you can change, improve, grow, learn and mature but unfortunately, you can’t make the other person
in a relationship do these according to your needs, expectations or
rationales. See the problem here?
Over the years in many of my presentations, I have subtly
covered this topic, but I have decided it is time to give it the attention,
focus, and independence it deserves. So, if you are aware of any organization that
would benefit from my latest addition to my seminar topics – Reality is what it
is – not what you want it to be – let me know.
Just a brief overview of it below if you have an interest. By the way,
it can be a keynote or an all-day
seminar.
During this session,
Tim will cover topics such as;
-Behaviors that
contribute to resistance when it comes to accepting differences and other’s
realities.
-Why people close
their minds to new, different and uncertain ideas, concepts and opinions.
-What we all lose when
we choose to see the world from our own perspective only.
-How this issue
contributes to poor communication, increased conflict and relationship
breakdowns.
-Proven techniques to
change these negative behaviors and attitudes.
-How to create a
culture of openness and reality that is reality
and not just a perceived reality.
-How to improve
employee performance, customer loyalty, and
marketing effectiveness but putting reality back into the business model.
And many others as
deemed beneficial for the client and or audience.
Just a few takeaways
from this session
-Improved employee
performance, integrity-based communication and individual responsibility.
-Greater employee
accountability and respect for others.
-Improved revenue,
market share, and profits due to a
culture of engagement and empowerment.
-Reduced conflict and
less wasted time and resources due to improved awareness and responsiveness.
-The ability to
maximize the impact and benefits of change and uncertainty by improved employee
creativity and problem-solving.
timspeaks4u@gmail.com
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