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Pleasure, Happiness or Joy . . .
You Choose!
Tim
Connor
Let’s start with a few definitions. First official and then mine.
Pleasure – recreation, relaxation, or amusement,
especially as distinct from work or everyday routine. Gratification of the
senses, especially sexual gratification.
A feeling of delight, or satisfaction.
Mine – Temporary
satisfaction, fun or contentment.
Happiness – resulting unexpectedly in
something pleasant or welcome. Gladness,
cheerfulness or delight. . Mine –
Temporary feelings of satisfaction, control, inner peace, acceptance or
approval.
Joy – Bliss, ecstasy, elation
joyfulness. Mine – An easy and patient approach to life that is grounded in
more than superficial or exterior circumstances. Inner delight rather than outer delight.
Ok, you ask - based on the above all seem very similar. Well yes and no. How about I shared a bit more and then you
can decide which you prefer to have in your life.
Pleasure and happiness are generally the result of outside-in
situations, circumstances or people.
They are both fleeting depending on what is going on day to day or
minute to minute. Neither last more than
a few minutes, hours or at the most a few days. They are superficial at
best. Your favorite team wins. Your child’s graduation. A promotion. A new relationship begins. A
week long vacation. Get it? All of these over time lose their influence
on our attitudes, feelings or emotions.
Also, they all depend on something or someone else – not you.
Joy on the other hand is a mindset that fills every waking
moment of every day regardless of what is going on around you – positive or
negative.
If you can’t bring a joy mindset to even the worst of life’s
experiences then you are not living with joy but the other two and your
reaction will always be dependent on things going well or right.
The best way to go through life is letting joy fill every waking
moment of every day regardless of the challenges, disappointment or frustration
that you are facing. Impossible you
say? Read on.
I don’t need to cover any more information dealing with pleasure
or happiness – you know when you are feeling both and why. Ah ha but joy, now that’s an entirely
different story.
First let me ask you on a 1 – 10 scale where would you score
your joy right now? 10? Come on – get serious no one is perfect. 1? Come on no one can be that discouraged and
be reading this article. Getting
higher? OK. Going lower?
OK. The question is – what
mindsets, attitudes, beliefs or emotions tend to determine your level of joy
now, in the past, next week or next year?
Let’s talk about it.
Joy is not dependant on your level of happiness or pleasure, if
it is it isn’t joy you own but something else.
So what are the factors that contribute to joy? Let me discuss just two.
Your spiritual life –
There are many ways to define joy but for me it’s trusting God
for the gifts I receive every minute. It
is not my intent to define joy from your perspective but I ask you – do you
only feel joy when life is going well or do you feel joy for just your every
day gifts – 80,000 heartbeats a day, over 40,000 breaths a day, the ability to
think, create – I could list thousands of blessings that each of us receive
that most people take for granted. But
consider – at some point you will experience your last breath and you don’t
know when that will be so until then are you filled with gratitude for life’s
simple blessings?
Two questions to consider - are you a joy giver? Do you live each moment with thanks or are
you taking all of your gifts for granted?
Why not take some time and make a list of all of your blessings on one
side of the page and all your challenges/problems on the other side. I will guarantee - that no matter what your
current life circumstances are – that you’re blessing list will be a whole lot
longer than your challenge/problem list.
If this is the case consider that people who live with a mindset
of joy; live longer, smile and laugh more, get sick less and generally leave a
more positive life legacy than those who live with guilt, resentment, anger or
blame.
Your mental life –
The mind runs everything in your life; good, bad or neutral.
First we think something then these thoughts drive emotions and feelings. These emotions then cause actions, decisions
or behavior. See the problem here? If you are not controlling your thoughts you
are letting your responses – emotions – determine the quality of your life.
If you want more joy it’s not learning to control your emotions
but learning to control your thoughts.
Easy? No. Necessary if you want to experience joy? Yes.
You decide – where are you now, where are you routinely and
would you like to change something, anything, everything? You choose.
“We choose our
joys and sorrows long before
we experience
them.”
Gibran
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