What’s missing in your
life?
Tim Connor
OK, so you
have it all; a great career or business, all the financial resources you need
to handle your expenses and desires, excellent health, great relationships and
happiness, inner peace and contentment – come on – no one has everything.
So, what’s
missing in your life or to put this another way, what would like more of, less
of or better in order to feel you have it all?
OK if I
haven’t lost you yet – if you can sit there and say nothing is missing in your
life to feel totally; safe, content, satisfied and in control of every aspect
of your life - in my opinion, no disrespect to anyone, you are living in
Fantasyland, La La Land or have some serious denial issues.
One last
time – what’s missing in your life? What
would you like to change, do, improve, let go of, obtain, feel, achieve etc?
I’ll wager
that if you are still with me regardless of your answer to this question there
is a void or sense of tension somewhere in your life. I’m not going to dig into all of the
possibilities, reasons, desires or goals that could plague a person in search
of perfect, rather just consider two questions and then it’s your turn to do
some serious inner work if you want the future to be different in any way.
What’s missing?
Why is it
that so many people feel that if they just had more money or stuff life would
be good, great, better or perfect? There
are many reasons but here are just three; Insecurity, ego dominance or the need
for approval of others. If I had a
better job I would be more respected. If
I had a better car people would see me as successful, if I looked younger I
would be more appealing to others. Need
I go on? All of these needs can be
grounded in some way in these three issues.
Let’s say
you have it all but just can’t seem to let go of anything. In other words you define yourself by what
you have or own.
During my
world travels for years I have met many very wealthy people but I found it
interesting - their need to make sure I was aware of their status, wealth or
power.
I’m not
saying there is anything wrong or evil with owning the best of the best, just
that when this begins to define you or if you lost it, it would define you even
more accurately by your reactions to this loss – you have a serious problem.
Why is it
that so many people will sacrifice health, family and self-esteem to climb the
ladder of success?
Why is it
that many people______? Yes, you can fill in the blank with hundreds of
wants/needs and the question is still the same – does this define who you are,
how you want to be perceived or what you need to believe “life is good”?
I know you
might feel I didn’t answer the above question, but that’s not my role or
responsibility – this is a question you need to ask and answer with integrity
and honesty.
Why is it missing?
There could
be hundreds of reasons why what you need, desire or want is absent in your
life, currently but I’ll bet the reason is one of the following.
You feel or
believe you deserve it.
You feel or
believe that you have earned it.
You feel it
will make you appear to others as a better, smarter, wiser or wealthier person.
Let me ask
you – If your desire is greater wealth and you won the lottery, is that all it
would take to satisfy your need or desire?
Pogo once said, “Everywhere you go, there you are”. It’s a fact that within 5-7 years all major
lottery winners are bankrupt… so I guess there was more to successful,
contented and a happy life than money!
I say – go
for it – chase the wealth, fame power, influence or whatever you feel you want,
however – be careful not to put your total definition of the quality of life in
this one accomplishment, achievement or category. You will pay a price down the road –
somewhere at some point.
“Circumstances do not determine who a person is,
they define who they are.”
Holmes
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