Just
because something isn’t wrong -
doesn’t
make it right!
Tim
Connor
Wrong
-incorrect,
mistaken, in error, erroneous, inaccurate, inexact, imprecise.
Right - just, fair, proper, good,
upright, righteous, virtuous, moral, ethical.
Now that we have that out of the way let’s
dig a little deeper into the concepts of right and wrong and how we approach
each choice.
There are several ways to look at right and
wrong – in relationships, careers, money, friends, activities etc. Let’s look at just three;
Careers – So, you have a job offer and it
meets all of your criteria – benefits, salary, requirements, roles,
expectations etc. but for some internal reason it just doesn’t feel right. You consider – I could do worse or what’s the
worst that could happen – I can handle that.
But, again for some reason which you can’t explain it just doesn’t feel
right. So, what do you do – take the offer or wait for something better?
Accepting it would by all appearances not seem
wrong but is it right? That’s the
question.
Or, you are being offered a promotion but it
will require moving yourself and or your family to a new state and starting
over. Yes, the position and salary
increase are what you have always wanted and felt you deserve but again,
something inside you has you questioning this offer. You can’t put your finger on it as it seems
right on the surface but then again what are the direct and indirect short and
long term consequences on your family, friends etc.? And are they worth it? So many questions. So much to consider.
Let me ask you in hindsight have you ever
made a choice or decision that you thought was right given what you knew at the
time and it turned out poorly? Welcome
to the club. And by the way – if you
haven’t sooner or later you will.
Relationships – So you just met Mr. or Ms.
perfect, right or just what you have been looking for your entire life and you
decide to throw yourself into the relationship 100% but over time you realized
that there were signs or early signals that you overlooked that now are
becoming deal breakers. Okay – there are millions of single people in the US
and the chances are that you can or will ever meet 1% of them is unlikely so
when you feel you have found your one and true Soulmate you are all in. Be careful – could there possibly be just a
few others out there who might or could be right or better?
Again, let me ask you in hindsight have you
ever made a poor relationship choice and realized it long after you had
invested a great deal of time, energy, commitment and even resources? Welcome to the same club folks
How about life in general – I could go on
for pages about the numerous poor choices, decisions etc. I have made during my
life journey but I won’t bore you as I’m not looking for your pity. Let me just say that sooner or later we all
make decisions and choices we think are good because they are not wrong but
this doesn’t make them right. The answer
is simple make the choice and do whatever you can to make it the right choice
and if that is not possible – walk away.