Is Searching better than
finding
Tim Connor
Searching
for something in life? Been at it a while?
Getting closer? Getting discouraged?
Feeling like giving up? Found it
and it wasn’t what you thought it would be or what it would look or be like?
Searching – observing
acutely or examining thoroughly (well that’s not very helpful is it?
Finding - a
piece of information obtained from an investigation, especially scientific
research. Ditto as above.
I don’t even
know why I search for definitions any more.
Searching is
a close cousin of goals, purpose, dreams and desire. In some cases our
searching is a waste of time while in others it can keep us focused, committed
and active.
Here are two
quick examples.
Searching
for God’s will or His purpose for your life. How will we ever know we are on
the right path heading in the right direction when our journey is filled with
disappointment, frustration, uncertainty and even failure? We can never be totally sure we are moving in
the right direction. We can hope, we can
work and we can try but will we ever know for sure? I doubt it.
Years ago
when I made the decision to become a full time speaker and author there was an
inner calling – this is what I am supposed to do with my life and time. Was it written in stone? No. Have I experienced doubt and many questions
along the way that this decision was the right one? Yes.
So, what’s
the answer? Don’t know. I know this is a lot of help, but none of us can or
will ever know the future let alone what tomorrow will bring. All we can do is keep moving, learning,
surrendering and asking for guidance. As well as accept what crosses our path
as the ingredients necessary to achieve this destination.
A quote from
one of my favorite authors, Eric Butterworth.
“God’s law adjustment regulates
all the affairs of my life and all things are in divine order.”
You can
believe this, accept it or deny it and believe that you are in control but in
the end I believe we are all here for His purpose and He will keep nudging us
in the right direction. Yes, we can
resist but in the end I have learned that resistance only brings more pain and
frustration.
Second
example.
I love to
write and speak and not because someone may benefit from my words but because I
love to express myself. Yes if you benefit from my words that’s great but in
the end, they are my words written and spoken to help me learn more faster,
better and easier. So writing and speaking isn’t a chore, but a passionate work
of love. I can keep trying to get
better, wiser and more effective as I write and speak by continuing to learn
and grow.
My search is for writing and
speaking with clarity, integrity, courage and effectiveness.
“You can make your plans, but God
determines your steps.” You may have read that somewhere if you have
ever studied scripture.
Either way
I’m not implying that we shouldn’t keep searching for something we want or
desire, because if you don’t search that may be an obstacle to ultimately
finding. But here’s another problem.
What if we
find what we are searching for and then discover it wasn’t what we thought it
would be?
Another two quick
examples.
Many people
are searching for their one true love.
If this wasn’t true there wouldn’t be over 40,000,000 people searching on
dating sites. Let’s say you find what you believe is the love of your life and
after a few months or years you discover that what you found was wrong for any
number of reasons. Was the search
necessary? Yes. Did you find someone?
Yes? Were they the right person for the long term? No. Was the search a waste
of time? I’ll let you answer that one.
Second
example.
You are
searching for the perfect career or job.
You plan, study, work hard and finally find what you feel was the right
answer. But after a few years you start
to feel a sense of apathy, anxiety or even regret. Was the decision the right one at the
time? Well, yes, no and maybe. Would you have found the job without the
search? Probably not. Was it the best
answer at the time? You believed it was - then something over time changed that
gave you pause.
In each case
should you have just sat by waiting? Not a good strategy. Should you have done more research before you
made the choice? A better approach. Can
you guarantee that each choice leading to your search will be the right one?
Never.
The solution
– keep searching, hoping, believing, planning and acting but at the same time
accept that the direction or the outcomes of the search will not always lead to
the destination of your choice.
In the end I
believe that searching is better than finding as a life approach. This doesn’t mean that you won’t ever find or
that finding is bad, just that when you stop searching, you stop growing and
learning.
“If you do not expect the unexpected you will not
find it, for it is not to be reached by search or trail”.
Heraclitus